On Maturity….Buddhist Lamas…Contributed by Ram Gidwani

What is Maturity ?

Definition provided by Buddhist Lamas…

Maturity is when you stop trying to change people, and instead focus on changing yourself.

Maturity is when you accept people for who they are.

Maturity is when you understand that everyone is right in their own perspective.

Maturity is when you learn to "let go".

Maturity is when you are able to drop "expectations" from a relationship and give for the sake of giving.

Maturity is when you understand that whatever you do, you do for your own peace.

Maturity is when you stop proving to the world how intelligent you are.

Maturity is when you focus on positives in people.

Maturity is when you do not seek approval from others.

Maturity is when you stop comparing yourself with others.

Maturity is when you are at peace with yourself.

Maturity is when you can differentiate between "need" and "want", and you can let go of your wants.

Maturity is when you stop attaching "happiness" to material things.

If any one of these qualities are still missing in you, then you can know for yourself that you are not fully mature as yet.


Thankingsgiving Musings

Thanksgiving Musings.

Happy Thanksgiving!
Lets just thank God for all the blessings.

Robert Brault said this:”Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.”

And I said:”Enjoy ordinary days, for one day you may look back and realize they were the great days…”

And very long time ago, 🙂 , Epictetus said this:”He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.”

And K.E.Garland Quoted:”Gratitude is a way of life, not just a Holiday.”

So, lets be thankful and happy every day, not only today.

Counting my blessings makes me happy…

Have a great Thanksgiving!!!

God Bless you all.


Unsung Heroes…Inspiring Stories….The Better India

As a ragpicker, Manjula’s work would begin at the crack of dawn. She would pick up her large gunny collection bag to scrounge and unearth recyclable materials from other people’s waste. At the end of the day, she used to sell the entire collection to a scrap dealer. The only advantage in this job was that ragpickers always formed collectives of their own.

Her cleaners’ cooperative called – Shri Saundarya Safai Utkarsh Mahila Sewa Sahkari Mandali Ltd (SSSUMSSML), initially consisted of 40 women. It was founded after Manjula and the women in her collective met Elaben Bhatt, the founder Self-Employed Women’s Association (SEWA).

By the time SSSUMSSML was formed, Manjula had already been married and had a son. But tragedy struck suddenly, leaving her as the only breadwinner in the family.

“National Institute of Design was the first institution to give business to us. Next, Physical Research Laboratory (PRL) hired our 15 women,” said Manjula, who was then the chief supervisor.

Over the years, Saundarya Mandali has grown through several levels of training. They provide cleaning services in institutions of national repute, residential societies, and have also worked during Vibrant Gujarat summits in the past. The women now use modern equipment like road cleaners, vacuum cleaners, high-jet pressure, micro-fibre mops, floor cleaners, carpet shampooing machines, scrubbers and extractors.

The next target for them is to make illiterate women tech-savvy, to ensure that they can understand the e-tendering process.

“Today companies and institutes issue e-tender for contracts and job work which we find difficult to fill as we are technologically challenged. But we shall overcome this too,” Hemaben Parmar, who has been associated with Saundarya Mandali for the last 20 years, told The Times of India.

Manjula also managed to earn enough to put her son through school and medical college. He is a doctor today. The college where he studied recently honoured Manjula and her son